How can I get my lover to become my Beloved?
There is no simple, formulaic
answer. Your lover becomes your Beloved as you become their Beloved.
cringe at the word "worship" when it is applied to them.
Although they have some sense of having the divine within—a
soul or a spark or a flame or a light—they fear naming
themselves as divine.
The Abrahamic culture has scared the
divine life out of
with its dreadful
story of the Fall. Millennia of hearing that you are a sinner—"Sinners
in the Hands of an Angry God" no less—makes it almost
impossible for some to accept being a Beloved.
This gets very complex, to say the least. "Do
you want to live forever?" is judged incomprehensible, even
blasphemous, to Abrahamics: sacred and secular.
forever is a way of being in the world, right now.
It is a way of imagining and so creating the world. While we have
to the Earth and one another, our main activity is playing.
We are "homo
ludens"—human's playing. Maybe that is a start—if
you can play together (not compete in the sense
dominating), if you can
together, then ... well, there must be as many ways for all this
to happen as there are lovers out there Intending and
embracing as Beloveds.