Preciousness is made present as you
see and sense the special uniqueness of the Other.
Often you find yourself using
the word “precious” to describe children.
They have a certain innocence about them which enables
you to see them discover the world
and themselves. You watch a young child play with alphabet blocks. You’ve
been saying, “This is A. A is for Apple”—there is
an apple image on the block. You’ve done this a thousand times,
and then, at a special moment, the child shows the block to you and
says, “A is for Apple.” At such a moment you are delighted,
tickled pink, and you want to rush off and tell someone else, “Hey,
Addie just said, A is for Apple”—as if she deserves
a Nobel Prize.
Such a moment is precious
because you shared in a
rare self-disclosure and opening of the child's
human sense of wonder. It was a
“we” experience, not just something the
child did on her own.
To make present preciousness, Earthfolk
feel, at times, that humans should throw away their
names. This would require asking someone, Who
are you? What makes you special
so that I can remember you? Such questions would lead to opening the
Other’s preciousness to you.
Consider how you and your intimate
Other share preciousness, right now. Or, Do you?
Could you jot down what is precious about your lover? Would you feel
comfortable calling and being called Beloved? How would you advise your
intimate Other to approach you so that you’d feel comfortable
enough to share your preciousness?